This is also a common occurrence, especially if there has been a significant amount of time that a child and a parent have been apart. Children in separation or divorce situations are many times torn in a loyalty conflict between their parents. They begin to form rigid thinking and boundaries and believe that to work on the relationship means relinquishing control. I encourage parents to help their children see the efficacy in working through the conflict with their parent. Many times, the court has ordered Reintegration or Reunification therapy and will hold the parent accountable for getting the child to the sessions. My approach to this is to support the entire family system, including both parents, beginning with the intake process and continuing with regular debrief sessions for both parents. I believe that regardless of the outcome of the therapy, the opportunity for children to address the conflict in this foundational relationship is essential to healthy emotional development.